I Began My ‘Oppressed’ Life

I couldn’t think of a more catchy line to grab your attention!

Yesterday was a very special day for Muslims (at least in my country and other countries with almost the same time zone). Why? It was Eid!!! You may have heard of people wishing “Eid Mubarak” to Muslims at least once in your life. What does Eid Mubarak mean? ‘Eid’ means celebration, and ‘Mubarak’ means blessed. So basically, blessed celebration!

Did I actually begin my oppressed life?  Haha! No, not at all. That’s not the way I’ll put it. It might be the way many other people put it though.

Why? Well, people tend to be very judgmental. Today I’m going to talk about the hijab – a.k.a (very wrongly) the symbol of oppression.

What is the hijab? Hijab is an Arabic word meaning barrier or partition. In Islam, however, it has a broader meaning. It is the principle of modesty and includes behavior as well as dress for both males and females. The most visible form of hijab is the head covering that many Muslim women wear.

Now why did the title say I began my ‘oppressed’ life? Yesterday, I started wearing the hijab.

For many people, the hijab may seem compulsory because many Muslim women wear it. In Islam, we are asked to cover ourselves and dress modestly. This is interpreted in different ways.

I was raised by a family (and extended family) of non-hijabis. My mum and my sister don’t wear it, and neither did I. Recently though I came to understand the reason behind it, and I believed wearing it will strengthen my relationship with God.

It wasn’t an easy decision. Actually it was an easy decision, but it wasn’t easy to start wearing it. I would keep postponing it, I’ll wear it on my 18th birthday, I’ll wear it after my exams, that sort of thing.

In a ladies sermon during fasting, we were told that “You shouldn’t be the same person who started fasting by the time you celebrate Eid (festival after fasting). You should try to change and be better.” That’s when I decided that I was going to start wearing the hijab from Eid. I told my parents of my intention to start wearing the hijab. I did a wardrobe change. That was it. Now I am an official hijabi, and I’m never going to look back in regret.

I do understand that maybe some Muslim girls out there might not have the freedom of wearing or not wearing the hijab like I did, but most of the hijabis I know all wore it out of their own choice. It makes us feel closer to God, it makes us feel empowered, it makes us feel beautiful inside and out, it makes us feel proud and confident to show the entire world that we are proud of being Muslims.

If a nun who covers her hair does it to devote herself to her religion, why is a Muslim who does the same oppressed? 

With Love.

PS – I was planning on posting this yesterday, but I was very busy with the festival.

PPS – Are you a proud hijabi? Want to share your hijab story with us and inspire girls who want to wear the hijab? Here’s your chance. Email your story to thediaryofamuslimgirlblog@gmail.com.

75 thoughts on “I Began My ‘Oppressed’ Life”

  1. Great post. Although I am Christian, I feel that most people don’t even understand the significance of Muslim women wearing the hijab due to recent circumstances in the U.S. But, I know several Muslim friends who would agree with you so CONGRATULATIONS on taking this step. May God bless you.

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  2. Muslim Girl
    Thank you sharing your story regarding your decision to wear the hijab. I can appreciate the religious and modest significance.
    However, I do have a comment/question and I probably already know the answer. I have seen many young women wearing the Hijab but they also wear tight clothing, heavy makeup and revealing tops. This confuses me as I believed wearing the hijab was modesty.

    I can equate this to Christian women who proclaim loudly their faith and yet walk and talk and dress provocatively. Christian women are also suppose to dress modestly and not attract attention. HAHA, Only the most conservative dress modestly.

    Do you have any thoughts on this?

    I appreciate your post. Keep up the good work. Prepper Gal

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    1. In my country you can rarely find a girl with heavy make up on, unless they have to wear it for work. The hijab doesn’t only mean to cover your head, in a way it’s like you chose a lifestyle. It’s true, there’s a lot of cases of girls wearing tight and see through clothes with their hijab. It’s completely wrong to do that. I only hope they aren’t aware that they are doing it wrong and someone advices them, rather than they doing it on purpose to attract attention to their bodies. πŸ˜•
      Make up on the other hand, I won’t be able to relate to that. I guess they interpret face being okay to be shown as face being okay to put make up on? It could be a case on confidence too. Maybe make up makes them feel beautiful and helps them to wear the hijab and enjoy how they look.
      Those are my thoughts on that. Hope that helps in some way.
      Thanks a lot. Nusrath.

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  3. Wonderful post. Keep it up!! I’m also Muslim but i’m not a hijabi. But i have a full intention to do it but i’m still afraid of the reaction from my family and a few friends. I indicated it as a joke a year ago that I would wear hijab and my mom was shocked. I joked about it before but i want to wear it now more than ever. Any advice u could give me? Thank you, keep on writing and happy eid mubarak 😁

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    1. I was planning on writing a post about it in a while actually, tips on how to start wearing the hijab. Do you have a way to direct message me? Facebook or something? Eid Mubarak to you too love! ❀️

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  4. Wonderful post! I read a BS article about ow hijabis can’t be feminists because they wear a “symbol of oppression”. I thought that was the most ridiculous thing ever. Just because someone wears a hijab doesn’t mean they are forced to. Some people, like you, want to wear them That doesn’t mean that you are oppressed and can’t advocate for women’s rights. Anyone can be a feminist and the notion that hijabis can’t really just made me mad. Congratulations to you for your choice, and thank you for sharing it! I really enjoy learning about other cultures and yours is wonderful

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      1. I guess so, but none of them do. It’s not considered important anymore. I’m not Catholic so I don’t know the details. It’s a good thing that you are pursuing your relationship with God. πŸ˜ŠπŸ™

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      2. There are many congregations of nuns who cover their heads. As a matter of fact, those who do are seeing the most growth in the number of women who want to join their congregation. The founder of the Servants of Charity founded an order of nuns first. they cover their heads. They are the Daughters of St. Mary of Providence http://www.dsmpic.org/ The Sisters of Mary Mother of the Eucharist is another congregation https://www.sistersofmary.org/ but there are very many who do.

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  5. How it make you close to God ? Or do you want to say who doesn’t wear hijab cannot be close to God ? Or who does not wear hijab is not modest ? That means you are calling 2/3 of the world’s women as “not modest ” ?

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    1. It makes me feel closer to God than when I didn’t wear the hijab because I am listening to one more of his guidelines to life now. I’m sorry about your misunderstanding but I didn’t mention anything of the sort to all of the other three of your questions. I never tried to say anything else other than exactly what I did. Cheers!

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        1. Nope. I simply meant that in my religion, the hijab is known to be a symbol of modesty (in terms of dress and behaviour). It doesn’t at all mean that it makes a woman modest. There could be plenty of woman who wear the hijab but still do all the wrong things in the world. Likewise there could also be plenty women who don’t wear the hijab who dress and behave very modestly. So yup, I did not mean what you are assuming I meant. Cheers!

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        1. That’s entirely your opinion, which may not be true. I didn’t mean to offend anyone at all, and if I did offend you, I’m sorry about that. If you read through the comments you’ll notice that most of the ladies out there have not got offended at all by this article.

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    1. Nope actually, I am doing other things as well. I will eventually approve and reply to all your comments. Incase you don’t know, it’s 10.12pm over here. So I might have to go to bed and get back to you tomorrow morning too. Depends.

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    1. Even if she did you’d still make no sense at al πŸ™‚ Ranting about this on social media isn’t going to get you anywhere, nor is it going to change anyone else’s perspective on the topic, So please πŸ™‚

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    1. Social media is for ranting, eh? Funny, all this time I thought it was for connecting with friends, sharing your thoughts, and making connections throughout the world. But oh well, I guess its for ranting.

      And oh, your arguing is pretty damn on point. There’s 30 comments here, and none of them are offended, but what % of the worlds population correspond to that, right? Let’s take it proportionally. More than half of the followers of this blog aren’t Muslim, yet, they show support and understand and care. And there’s about 30 comments here. And one, against all this. Namely, you. But oh well, you dont like it, and suddenly, it corresponds to 2/3 of the worlds population? The writer intended no means of offense to anyone, writing here. She just wrote about her, hence, the diary of a muslim girl. The title speaks for itself, and I think you should be LITERATE enough to grasp what it means

      Also, moving on to your idea of modesty. So, nuns wear this, they cover themselves for the fun of it? What do they hope to accomplish by this? Nobody ever told you that covering yourself with a hijab made you modest. First of all, scratch that idea. Muslims make up roughly 25% of the world’s population. Christians/Catholics make up 30% of it. Yet, only Catholic/Christian nuns cover their head. Why, may I ask? Are nuns not the closest to God? Or are you under the impression that they do it just for fun, like I believe you are under the impression of?

      You did also mention something of truth though. That 2/3 of the worlds population do not wear it. And about 50% of Muslims dont, either. Why? Because of people like you, to be honest. We arent able to practice our religion, the way we want it, live our lives the way we want it, because of ignorant people like you. The racism, the constant naggings of “oppression” to women, the racist jokes, and the abuse done to women wearing a hijab in public, just because they want to pursue their Religion. Just because they want to do what they like. Impossible because of people like you. That gets us everytime. Terrorists, you call us. 25% of the whole damn world is Muslim. If we start bombing everyone around us, there’ll be no world. I hope you understand that.

      Food for thought. No offense intended.

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      1. I think u did not notice the inverted comma ! 30 means what % of world’s population ? What % of WordPress population ? Anyway, u did not even understand, i am not accepting the term ! And why you are getting agitated ? If you put something in social media, everyone may have their own perspective ! But it is suspicious if someone gets agitated over it

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        1. It’s not funny at all. I ain’t spending my entire life online, and I’m supposed to be manually approving all the comments. So have your patience until they are. Like I told you before, I approve everything eventually.

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          1. Well dear , it looked funny to me. But of course it is your blog , u can take all the time. As long as, it is social media, people with different views can tell as they please too. But what is surprising, some people getting abusive about it !! I asked you few questions, if don’t want to or don’t know the answer, that is ok.

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        2. Funnier thing is, how the author approved this comment without approving the rest. Hilarious. Obviously, she doesnt have all the time in the world, and im pretty sure she would approve anything and everything you say because all the readers here can see you arent making sense. No reason to not approve? Btw, i see no comments by you on my comments. Why so?

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        1. Nice! I say a lot of facts and points in my previous comment, and all you cared to reply about was my interpretation of your quote unquote. I think it also does depend on the user of the quote/unquote to convey the proper message with the proper sarcasm. Also, didnt you quote “ranting” just to quote the person who initially said it? Maybe you should just stick to your intial facts without trying to justify bullcrap that you cant justify. It’ll do a whole lot of good to a lot of people.

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          1. I asked the blogger a simple question, which she did not publish. The blogger mentions “Recently though I came to understand the reason behind it, ” so I asked her, I do not understand the reason behind it, can you explain? She did not answer me and said I am busy with other things. I ask that question to you now, ( to stick to the initial fact). Please answer me without using abusive words. I will be very happy to be enlightened.

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  6. Beautiful post, I really enjoy your blog (especially your blog title!). I really think these types of blogs are important for everyone, if we all took the time to -really- listen to each other, I think we would find out we all have more in common than we may have originally thought and that we aren’t that different after all <3

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    1. Thank you so much! This means a lot to me! Yup, I agree. We have to take time off our busy schedules to listen to each other and understand each other. It’ll make this world a much much better place! ❀️

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