Relationships And Men – Expectations

Well, interesting topic isn’t it? I mean, the Internet is flooded with what a woman wants, and it’s kinda sexist when you think about it.

“Wait. What’s that you are saying darling? Sexism?”

“No, I never said anything like that. I swear!”

*See what I mean?*


Anyway, before we start this off, let’s look at some random *facts* about men, shall we?

  • Men can slip into a coma while sitting in a retail store chair waiting for you to come out of the fitting room.
  • A woman speaks about 7,000 words a day; a man speaks about 2,000.
  • Men like gadgets with lots of fancy shiny black buttons.  It makes them feel dang important.
  • Getting a man organized is like herding a cat or pushing a rope uphill.
  • Most men have a disease.  It’s called open-cupboard-itis.  It can also be commonly referred to as open-drawer-itis.  Even when dealt with swiftly, this contagious disease re-occurs over and over again.
  • Crying in front of your man, is technically blackmail.  Use sparingly and only in an emergency. Be prepared to look like a hot mess for it to truly be effective.
  • If something can be interpreted in two ways, and one of the ways makes a woman sad or angry, a man would have probably meant the other one.
  • Don’t ask them what they’re thinking.  Men can think about nothing for hours.

These random facts actually speak for themselves, no? But for those needing actual information, (other than the above, I emphasize on the above very much because they are just awesome) look no further than further below. (As in, you know, continue reading.. Please.)

  1. Character –

Starting off with a true but relatable quote – “Beauty is nothing but skin deep – is a skin deep saying.” Read it again.

Being truly beautiful has nothing to do with what you look like, but everything to do with who you are. There’s countless beautiful women out there whose personalities are about as appealing as a public restroom’s toilet seat. Yes, you read that right. I’m sorry but it’s absolutely true.  We actually want someone who puts as much time into looking good to being genuine and real.

We see you laugh uncontrollably with your friends, so laugh with us. We love women who have senses of humor and don’t take life so seriously. So hungry you wanna order one large pizza for yourself? Or two? Then do. Get that ketchup all over your face, make a mess. We don’t care, we’ll only love you more for being you, with us.

You know that Drake song when he says, “Sweatpants, hair tied, chillin’ with no makeup on, that’s when you’re the prettiest…”?

Well, he’s right.

We love when you get dressed up and feel beautiful, but know that you don’t need to flip a switch from your real self in order to gain our acceptance.

If there ever comes a point when you feel a need to do that, well, you’re just with the wrong man.

  1. Affection –

Men are very physical human beings.

It goes without saying that a woman who is very free with her offerings of affection will entice us. It’s very warm and welcoming to a man.

Just like you, we want a woman to reach out and grab our hand; we want for you to come over and kiss us randomly; we want for you to hug us and ask us how our day was. It evokes this feeling of being wanted.

It just strengthens that connection we have with you and opens up lines of communication, but more importantly, makes us feel comfortable — invited in, so to speak.

  1. Confidence –

Life is difficult.

Every day is a struggle to get through and having a confident woman by your side is key to pursuing your dreams.

A woman who loves herself, regardless of her own flaws, will love a man for all of his. Beyond loving you, she will knock down the doors of resistance and reach for the stars with you.

There’s something sexy about a confident woman, and it has nothing to do with looks.

If we found ourselves attracted to you, know that we aren’t analyzing every inch of your body to find perfection. That doesn’t exist, and we aren’t looking for it. And if we do truly love you, well, all of your imperfections become perfect. Perfect imperfections. Yes, I quoted John Legend there. (GOOO JOHN, YOU DA MAN!)

4. Intelligence –

Stimulating conversations make a man go crazy.

Intelligent women are ones who know so much about the world around them, but even more so, have a keen interest in making it a better place.

They think critically and engage our senses. Furthermore, they have this drive to be successful, which in itself, can be the biggest turn on there is.

The decisions we face in life can often present us with uncertainty and having someone insightful by our side can help us make the right ones.

This doesn’t require a degree from Harvard, or any degree for that matter, just intellect, reasoning and understanding.

  1. Trust, yo! –

I mean, c’mon now. Women are jealous 99% of the time, 99% of the time. That needs to stop. Yes, we say we go out for a guy’s night out, and we GO for a guy’s night out, not some strip club!

Stop questioning us like Dr. Watson questions Holmes on how he solved the case. (Bad reference, I know.) You need to get that part of being jealous out of the equation.

I mean yes, you are entitled to being jealous, it’s cute and sexy at times when you are, we love it, but sometimes it’s just wayyyyyy too much. Trust us. If we love you, we would never hurt you, and we would never cheat on you. Don’t ya worry!

  1. Never ask the question – “How do I look?” –

I’ve been there, and I never will dare to answer it. Ever. Ohmygerd, never.

  1. Say it straight –

Guys don’t get it when a girl says something but means something else. If you want your man to understand what you say, say it straight.

  1. Respect – 

Of all the things men want in a relationship, respect is the biggest craving of all. Give a guy respect, and he’ll love you more. Take control of the relationship instead and he’ll shrivel into a shell.

There’s so many more things, but Word tells me I’m reaching 900 words as of now, so I’m gonna stop now. Hopefully. Trying to. Stop. Now.

G’luck, ladies.


PS – I didn’t write this. This was written by a guy (obvious from the tone of the article), who is very special to me. Ahem!

62 thoughts on “Relationships And Men – Expectations

  1. Great blog! Yup character surely matters.n i uesd its one of the main things like respect. I mean you can be the most beautiful girl on earth by appearance but if not by character its no use :). No offense to anyone who may read this. 🙂

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  2. Haha, loved this post. An entertaining guide inside the minds of man and woman. But like the saying goes, just when you think you know all the answers, someone changes the questions! 😁🃏

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  3. I love this! Sooooo many people (girls/women) are so thick headed! Yes you can be laid back and know what you want at the same time. Guys need as much love, attention, patience, and trust as we require from them. It goes both ways. When this is understood and put to use the love is endless!

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  4. Thanks for this insight, I think men will always be men and women will always be women. It;s hard for us not to act in a certain way because it’s just part of who we are! Happy to read some parts like the affection for example. Too many men want to be machos rather than saying what they really want and need 🙂

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