Do you ever get frustated with consecutive ‘likes’ you get by the same person at the same time?
I do.
I can’t imagine why someone would ‘like’ my articles without even reading them (I know they haven’t because you obviously can’t read 10 articles in less than a minute). It’s the most annoying thing in the world to know that people don’t even know what you are sharing, but they ‘like’ your post anyway.
I do understand that there are plenty of people who genuinely like your content and press the like button and that’s perfect. However, the problem is that, it’s so easy to like something now, that everyone likes everything.
This is a kind request to my readers. Please only ‘like’ my articles if you genuinely actually think it is good. If you have the time, please drop down a comment too because who doesn’t find comments more real than likes?
‘Likes’ have become so superficial but nevertheless so important in people’s lives. Specially among young teenagers and young adults, and specially in social media like Facebook and Instagram.
Why? Well, what I feel is that people aren’t confident in their own skin. They have this constant need to get validation from other people about how good they look and what they are doing with their lives.
There is a thirst for social media acceptance. It has gone so far that there’s people who actually skip the wait and straight out ask you or drop a hint asking you to like their status or picture. Have you not experienced that?
Facebook has made it so that we can like almost anything, photos, posts, comments and even what the other person says in a conversation. In the near future it’ll even have an option where you can like a person on Facebook. How absurd is that?
I guess we are all guilty of at least one point in our lives checking our phones only a minute after we post something on social media just to see how many likes we’ve managed to accumulate.
While you can’t really say no to that habit immediately, given the norm of the society, I think it’s important that we all grow up and realise that there’s more important things to do with our lives than accumulate likes. It’s important to know that we don’t need the approval or validation of other people to be happy about who we are.
With Love.
Here’s a reminder of my previous random posts which you may have missed –
Comments are better…means someone has actually read your stuff. However, likes are a show of support. Appreciate them as such. That’s all. Don’t knock it.
View CommentHmm.. Yup, I guess you could say that about blogs. In social media however, why would picture want any support? I am not trying to knock it George, just stated that I get frustrated when there’s consecutive likes on so many of my posts in less than a minute. This might not be the case for everyone, but personally I find it irritating when that happens because I start to wonder why. Cheers and thanks for pointing that out!
View CommentSo…..please don’t “like” my next post unless you actually read it. I agree with what you wrote. But…hey…people are just pitchin’ in with a small show of support. Many times a “like” is just a way for someone to promote their own blog too. They are advertising themselves. Yeah, annoying. Human motivation. Annoying.
View CommentHehe! I guess that’s true. Blog likes could be actually supportive and push you to keep writing. I guess because likes are so superficial nowadays that we tend to overlook appreciating them. I only mentioned the blog consecutive likes because that’s what sparked the article. However I was more consistent about social media likes and the obsession people have about it. Cheers!
View CommentOkay so read my new post and comment…then like! LOL! Likes alone are superficial. You have no argument from me. And I do enjoy your blog!
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View CommentI will. But before I do, your post inspired me to ask: is there any way we can block “likes” from people who haven’t even READ our posts? I’d agree to that!!!
View CommentNope, you can’t. Haha! Ofcourse you can’t. Maybe we could suggest wordpress to work on that. 😂
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View Comment…and yeah, yeah… Likes are superficial…but I’ve gone beyond that to start thinking…”at least someone is TRYING to help me out here…” Other than that, your post is 100% correct.
View CommentI don’t really have that problem. I can imagine it would seem disingenuous.
View CommentI don’t mind likes at all. I actually like it when I get them, cuz I always assume that person genuinely liked the content. However getting likes to all of my articles in less than a minute is very irritating because I wonder why they even feel like they need to ‘like’ it.
View CommentSo true. Social media has made us obsessed for likes …….. Unfortunately most of it is superficial.
But whatever the situation please to accept my like as a genuine one……Liked your post. Keep writing 😀
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View CommentHehe! I do love likes too and I accept any like because I always assume that the person genuinely liked the content. I only stated what sparked the post. Receiving consecutive likes on multiple posts in no time. Thanks a lot love!
View CommentAbsolutely true. We don’t need validation from the amount of likes we get. Post because you want too not because you will get a like. Sometimes, you may not get a like but it would have maybe made someone’s day nevertheless. And that’s more meaningful 🙂 Keep up the good work. Love your blog.
View CommentYup, I agree with you 100%! Thanks a lot for taking your time to comment. It means a lot! Have a great day! Cheers!
View CommentMy “like” above was genuine:) Thanks for this post!
View CommentHaha! OMG! I think I’m going to keep getting comments like this. Thank you for the ‘like’. I’m glad you liked it!
View CommentSo please “Like” my post even if you don’t read it! LOL! Just kidding. Truth is, you have touched on a very sensitive subject which most people feel guilty about! Lol! Keep writing about the issue! And if you want , I’ll repost my blog on the exact same subject. Just ask! Great writing! Keep it up! Thank you.
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View CommentWell said. I just had an experience of someone liking all my blogs within a minute & i told the person it is not genuine. All the things i like on social media is bcaz i genuinely like them and there are many things i don’t like. Some of my friends who like everything that comes on their news feed think i’m strange for not doing what they do 😐
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View CommentYup, very true. All I see in public transport is people on social media liking every post they see. I just can’t imagine why they do that.
View CommentAgree with you 509%dear!!! It’s so sad that nobody reads but just likes to get likes back… this isnt insta or fb …
View CommentLots of love and hugs to you; wasnt at home for a while so;
Wasn’t able to be active on WP😘
Nurgul!! Check my blog. I shared your video. And also check your blog. I left a few comments.
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View CommentOk dear; I ll check all of them. So many things I missed; will spend much time to close the gap 😘🙏🏼❤️
View CommentHehe! Yup, please do!
View CommentOn the contrary, one can speed read without compromising comprehension.
View CommentSpeed read 20k+ words in less than a minute?
View CommentNo matter the speed one chooses to read, one can promise superficiality and Newsspellcom.org. shall never be found synonymous.
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View CommentYes the “likes” are apart of the culture we now live it. I have felt the same way many times and based on the content I know if they really read the item or just liked it without really reading. Its like fighting city hall, there is no win with it. Its the social media culture.
View CommentYup, very true. Thanks for leaving down this comment. Hope you are having a wonderful day!
View Commentglad to see you put it out there!
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View CommentGlad you like that I did!
View CommentI completely agree. My poetry, and essays are fragile. I pour my heart into them. I write , because, I have something to say. If you like something of mine, or something moves you, I am honored. But, please tell me exactly what you like! Thank you for writing this!!
View CommentI’m glad you liked it! Thank you stopping by! 😇
View CommentAgree, but I’m very new to the blogging world, so not sure what the norm is… it’s like reading the newspaper, you don’t know the news, unless you read about the news …. I “like” to read the article and then comment, and really there shouldn’t be a like star, not necessary. Just read and comment, or just don’t read. Don’t be a pretend reader…..
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View CommentYup, exactly my thoughts. Why is there a button for liking something? Liking is something within.
View CommentI read and I will like, and you are right. As an emerging writer who hears the noise of platform importance in my ear, I feel the same frustration. I’m trying to tend to the craft, but get sucked in by the drone of audience. Friends see me and let me know they lived a piece, but comments are paltry. I want to be present to the in person compliment, but a niggling voice says, “please comment” because it matters to publishing houses. And yes, I am as guilty as the rest when I post, checking frequently for view, likes and comments. All well said. Thank you!
View CommentI don’t think that checking for likes and comments on something like a blog post which you’ve put blood and sweat into is something you should be guilty of. Anyone and everyone likes it if their work is acknowledged. I am 100% against the obsession of checking for likes on social media. For example, how many likes you get on that new selfie you uploaded. You ain’t put no blood and sweat into that. Oh wait! Maybe you have, given all the filters and everything nowadays.. 😁
View CommentI agree with the one poster who said that comments are the ultimate compliment. Even if they are just signs that you inspired thoughts of the reader themselves.
View CommentYup, comments are the ultimate compliment. That too real comments rather than “nice read”. But in all honesty I enjoy superficial comments as much as I do real comments when I feel like “damn this person means that”..
View CommentI do, too. All comments are welcome as long as the intentions are good.
View CommentHi. Thanks for the follow. You’re totally right here. I think some people are just fishing for follows and likes- so good luck to them.I always prefer good ol’comment to chew on -and enjoy some profound intelligence to get my brain gears a-moving. Will be reading more from you soon, toddler permitting 😂
View CommentHehe! Thanks so much for taking your time to drop by and for commenting! I really never understood the satisfaction people get from accumulating likes and follows. The only thing I want from my blog is for more and more people to actually read it. Not just press the like or follow button. On social media however, I’ve come to the point I don’t even acknowledge likes I get. I only enjoy reading comments.
View CommentI like the likes, but you are correct. We all want a more intimate response of our work, we all want to feel we have touched a mind and helped them make the world better. I know that it is hard for people to be overwhelmed by something distant from their daily lives. Still, we as “writers” keep trying, so that they can keep trying to connect to be beauty and terrors of the bizarre world. I am grateful for your blog!
View CommentThank you so much John! That really is your name right? It means so much to me. I love connecting with people like this. I hardly have time to blog now, but as soon as my exams are over I will definitely check out and read every blog of people who enjoy reading my posts. Cheers!
View CommentYou are so right. People have “this constant need to get validation from other people about how good they look and what they are doing with their lives.”
I feel that that is why people keep pressing the like button because they probably have low self-esteem.
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View CommentI wonder why there even is such a thing as a like button. Liking something is something you feel. It doesn’t have to be made into a button does it? If you really like it you can always say it in the comments. 🤔
View CommentHi Nusrath. I agree. I’d definitely want someone to read before liking. I’m looking forward to read all of your other posts in my spare time.
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View CommentI’m glad you think the same Karen! Hope you are having a wonderful day! 😊
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View CommentSimply put, ON POINT! And well written ❤
View CommentThank you so much! 😇
View CommentCompletely agree – I’ve been guilty once or twice of half-reading an article and then just liking because I’ve gotten tired/bored, but for the most part I always make sure to like after I’ve read it. It’s why I like give and receiving comments so much because it means that someone actually wants to engage with what you’ve put out there.
View CommentYup it does mean a lot when someone takes some time of their lives to drop by, read an article and comment. I’m glad you didn’t get bored reading this and end up giving it a ‘like’. Hehe! Cheers!
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View CommentI agree with you. I’m telling a story and want to know what the reaction is. What characters do they love, hate or love to hate? lol I would hope if someone clicked like, it was because they actually did find it enjoyable.
View CommentYup, that’s what I end up assuming too. Unless they like everything in my blog in less than a minute. Hehe!
View CommentThat’s quite true. A lot of people feel the need to be validated by likes.
View CommentYup, they do. It shouldn’t be that way too.
View CommentI get this all the time on Instagram. And when I take a look at their profile, they’re selling something: a product, coaching service, etc. I feel your pain on this one.
View CommentI never have looked at their profiles yet though. Maybe I will the next time that happens. 😁
View CommentI usually comment before I like. I feel the same way. I know from the very large blogs I managed how less significant a like is over other forms of engagement. People would like a photo without reading the associated post that, if they read it, they would not like it. Good point you made to make people think.
View CommentThank you so much Jeff! A like is great if it means that they actually liked it. But now it has become something else, I am totally against that.
View CommentI totally agree with you! I don’t spend time writing my blog post so that people can just send me a casual like in way of support. Not that I don’t appreciate the support, of course. I know that sometimes I read blog posts and I will just leave a like because I do like them, but don’t necessarily have anything to say.Or maybe I don’t have the time because I’ve only found a few spare moments to read.
But getting a string of like after like by someone who clearly didn’t read what I wrote is definitely annoying. I’m not trying to win a popularity contest or get likes at all really. I’m trying to share something, to add value, to find people who can relate to me and who I can relate to in return. And if someone isn’t actually reading my post, and is liking it just to like it, then I feel they are doing my blog a disservice.
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View CommentI wonder why they even feel the need to do it in the first place. Do they want it back on their blog? Are they asking for attention? Do they think we like it? The list goes on.. Anyway, thanks for dropping by!
View CommentSo I could not even find a like on this post. I was going to hit it just to be funny. lol I do happen to totally agree with you. A comment is so much more personal and lets us writers know we actually sparked some sort of thought from our writing. Good or bad, I would much rather see a comment on one of my posts rather than a like. I get so disappointed to see a like and not a comment. It is sad that I feel that way but I do. Thank you for letting me know I am not alone.
View CommentIn my posts you are only able to like via the reader. 😂 Hehe! Thanks for taking time to drop this comment. Hoping you are having a wonderful day! Cheers!
View Commentwow, so accurate. love this post ❤️️ thanks for write what I think about people–sometimes me–nowdays. so reminder and truly it so amazing!
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View Commenti read the comments too lol
Thank you so much love! Means a lot!
View CommentGreat point, Nusrath! We shouldn’t just assume, however, that because someone made 10 consecutive likes, that they didn’t read all 10 articles prior to doing so. I am a very fast reader, and I could read 10 short posts in about a minute. Alternately, someone could have spent 2 hours browsing every post and only after reading the entire blog then “like” the 10 they liked most!
In any event, I like your blog and am interested in learning more about Islam and the life of Muslims in general and a young Sri Lankan recent Hijabi specifically, so I’ll be following you for a while.
Take care, be well, and happy blogging,
Denny
View CommentDenny, I agree with you! Actually that’s something I thought of too. It definitely is a possibility that a person has read all of my posts prior to consecutively liking them. I was just stating my frustration over it happening and the feeling in my gut that it wasn’t sincere which sparked this post.
View CommentI was talking more about the obsession people have got over likes nowadays.
Anyway, thanks for pointing that out! Take care and happy blogging to you too!
Cheers!
I think it is the pressure! I have come to realise that as your follower base expands it comes with its own unique set of challenges: How do you show all your followers that you are still invested in what they have to say. The “consecutive likes” becomes quite tempting. While it may be a shortcut, it does at least say you are visiting even if you are just passing through.
But admittedly, one comment seems to pack more gratification than consecutive likes.
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View CommentI admit I felt a bit intimidated by that now! 😃
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View CommentHaha! There’s no reason to. Lol! 😂
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View CommentReally a nice post..I agree with your point: There is a thirst for social media acceptance…And there are people who are engaging in social media as their minds consider them as a solution for the identity crisis..
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View CommentThank you so much Lesley for taking your time to drop by and comment! Cheers! 😇
View CommentGood post! I’m glad you wrote about this since it’s a very common scenario but few people discuss it. And your post is very well written and thought out. Personally, I don’t like “likes”. When I first joined Facebook (way, way back) they didn’t have “likes” yet, so if you wanted to show support for someone you HAD to comment, and people had all kinds of interesting, in-depth conversations in the comments. Since “likes” have come about, people seem to have gotten lazy. It’s so easy now for people to pretend to care. Comments are so much nicer cause then you know why someone liked something and can have a chat 🙂
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View CommentExactly! I wish they just removed the like button off everything! 😇
View CommentI agree with you comments are better than likes. When one comments you get motivation and feed back.
View CommentI’ve never liked an article without reading it entirely.
View CommentSomething made me revisit this blog post… I’ve read it before and I thought I understood it, but now I UNDERSTAND it. You were just more experienced of a blogger by then.
Don’t get me wrong, I like likes. They’re great. But I do like comments a lot more.
View CommentOh well! I’m glad you understand it now. Thanks for commenting!;)
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